When you try to be liked by everyone, your outline starts to fade.
Keep adjusting yourself to others, and "how I'm seen" replaces "what I want" as your standard.
I used to think, at work and in relationships, that it paid to make no enemies and go along with everyone.
But the more I did that, the more I felt like I was making myself cheap.
Don't sell yourself short
In light of Kant's idea of dignity, what matters isn't being chosen by many people.
It's not reshaping yourself, again and again, into whatever is convenient for others.
If you give up your own thoughts and the things you care about just to be liked, in the end you won't know who you are.
Have a boundary
So what you need, I think, is a boundary.
Decide: "I can go along this far. Past here, I won't."
Then some people won't get along with you. Some won't like you.
That's fine.
Those who get it, get it.
Those who don't, don't.
I've come to think that not losing my outline matters more than never being disliked.
You don't need to keep changing yourself to be lightly liked by a hundred people.
I want to live with something I can point to and say, "This is me."